This was our prompt:
From Stazja McFayden's
Poets for Human Rights e-Newsletter 2022-5:
The Greeks were considerate in naming the different kinds of
love – eros (romantic passionate love), philia (deep friendship),
erotoropia (playful love), storge (unconditional, familial love),
philautia (compassionate self-love), pragma (committed,
companionate love), agape (empathetic, universal love), xenia (guest-friendship,
hospitality).
The idea was to choose one of these forms of love as theme for a poem.
Bruce chose philautia, compassionate self love.
Self Love
When I love myself
I am small and thoughtful
And don’t use much space
Or oxygen.
I am a man who listens well
When I love myself
And then am critical of my narcissism,
My need for attention and affirmation,
The immense amount of work it takes
Just to keep this tall, fumbling man with bad manners
And nose hairs
Alive and safe.
The impact of truths exposed
Will not always be pleasant or good.
When appraising one’s self-criticality honestly -
Confronting one’s truest truths
Is not always pretty -
All of which makes self-love a challenge
But commends the faint object of the man’s affections
To high self-regard for his accurate self-appraisal
And self-critical honesty, which can also be love.